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Language Of Love
Your journey in life is made meaningful thru relationships —you may have things but only people get to remember you when life ends. Creating or building a relationship is a job for a large heart. Small minds think of ‘me’ but large ones consider others; how to please or help them realize their goals.
As I grew up to realize this innate desire of man, life has been a lot easier for me. Understanding why people do certain things and why they expect so much of others has also become relatively meaningful. Most people could go to any length just to get and keep a relationship, others on the other hand, look for what they can gain from it but whatever the case, we need each other to survive.
To be a bit more specific, I’ll loved to narrow this discuss to how lovers should treat and behave toward each other. There are definitely things we expect to hear or see in the people we love. Sometimes we may not exactly know what to expect but can tell for sure that we want a bit more than what is being given at the moment. The feeling of deprivation brings so much pain that regret becomes inevitable, but will regret do any good to your life? The way out is: find what works and get on with it, pick the bits and pieces of your life and make love stay. This is why I have suggested some of these things that could help build your love:
Talk to me: Do you know what kind of lover will not want to talk to the one he/she loves? Relationship is about talking; it helps you know the other partner better and deeper. It is said that ‘your mouth is a window to your heart’- it is only when you talk or act in a certain way that someone can have an idea of what you appreciate or detest. Talking together (whether on phone or face to face) is also a great way to have fellowship that gladdens the heart and nourishes love.
In talking to or with our loved ones, we should also be careful about what we say and how we say these things to them as well. Nice things will help build the other person; find something good to say about them but avoid lies. The other aspect of talking to your partner tends toward your ability to handle unpalatable situations when they occur. It’s impossible to relate with people without hurting or ‘stepping on their toes’ but having a fair understanding of what is expected of you in the relationship will help you mind your language even in anger.
Help me: The word ‘help’ is the yolk of relationship. In whatever we do to or with each other, the whole idea is ‘help’. We are simply helping others to be the best they could be. If you had stayed beside a loved one in times of challenges, you had offered ‘help’. We could then boldly say that being there for people is helping them get thru life. Your spouse needs this more than you could ever imagine. A young man (Prince) just told me how he tested a woman’s love for him after many years of courtship. Here is the account:
“I met Tina during my degree programme in the UK, she gained admission a year before me and settled in really nice. She knew exactly where to get what and at a reasonable price so all my shopping had to revolve around her free days or when she would be ready to shop as well.
“Doing things together was a pleasant experience I treasured so dearly. She was ever ready to squeeze my plans into her schedule just to make sure I did not feel strange or lonesome. Time and events brought us so close that we could hardly do without seeing and spending quality time together. The next thing I said to myself was, if I have found a woman of this nature, why don’t I make up my mind to spend the rest of my life with her?
“As her twenty-fourth birthday was drawing near, I thought of the most romantic way to express my love to her and probably go a step further by proposing marriage. A week to the time, I shared my thought with my very good friend and he asked if I was sure I wanted to marry her. My natural answer was a firm ‘yes’ but he further asked if I was sure she could be there for me in times of challenges. I quickly reminded him how the girl had been there for me since I came to study in England. His last words were “test her love before you propose marriage”
“I discarded his words, proposed and then planned a trip to Kenya but before I left, I told Tina there was something special I wanted to tell her but that would be over the phone once my holiday’s over and I’m getting ready to come back to the UK (I wanted to tell her our wedding date). She agreed and awaited the surprise. We had a good time and she dropped me off at the airport with tears of love- telling me how difficult the coming weeks would be for her without me.
“I assured her of my love even though we were going to be apart for a while and she let me go with a wobbly farewell. After spending one week, I called Tina’s phone and left a desperate message. She called back and I told her about the accident- that I was still in the hospital trying to recover. When result of my x-ray was brought, it was clear to all I would not be able to walk again except by divine intervention.
“Once this information was made open to Tina, her calls reduced drastically and the next time she managed to pick my calls, she made it clear to me the relationship was over as she would not be able to spend the rest of her life HELPING a man on wheelchair. This was when I needed Tina’s help the most but she declined”.
Relationship needs just little things to succeed…
Be grateful: There’s need to say a simple ‘thank you’ to your spouse when and where necessary. Don’t ever take anything for granted or claim right of service. Notice even the minutest effort to help. People love to be appreciated even when they are doing what they’re paid for-‘thank you’ makes them want to do a lot more.
Give: Giving to our loved ones is/should be a natural instinct. It’s difficult to convince someone of your love when there is nothing you are giving. Love gives. It is possible to give without loving but it is absolutely impossible to love without giving.
Physical contact: There is no special way to express this as it is obvious we desire to be with the people we love. Find time to stay with your spouse and bask in the joy of discovering each other. It’s surely a strong language of love.
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Kano Transfers Over 1,000 Almajiris To Different States Amidst COVID-19 Pandemic
The Kano State Government on Saturday said it has transferred 1,098 ‘almajiris’ to different states of the country.
The commissioner for local government, Murtala Garo, disclosed this while presenting a report before the state’s task force on COVID-19 at the government house, Kano.
Almajiris are children who are supposed to be learning Islamic studies while living with their Islamic teachers. Majority of them, however, end up begging on the streets of Northern Nigeria. They constitute a large number of Nigeria’s over 10 million out-of-school children.
Mr Garo said the Kano government transported 419 almajiris to Katsina, 524 to Jigawa and 155 to Kaduna. He said all of them tested negative for coronavirus before leaving the Kano State.
Despite the coronavirus test done in Kano for the almajiris, the Jigawa government earlier said it would quarantine for two weeks all the almajiris that recently arrived from Kano.
Mr Garo said another 100 almajiris scheduled to be taken to Bauchi State also tested negative to COVID-19.
In a remark, Governor Abdullahi Ganduje said the COVID-19 situation in Kano was getting worse. He appealed for a collaborative effort to curtail the spread of the virus in the state.
Mr Ganduje, who commended residents for complying with the lockdown imposed in the state, said the decision was taken to halt the spread of the virus.
Kano State, as of Saturday night, has 77 coronavirus cases, according to the Nigeria Centre for Disease Control.
The decision to transfer the Kano almajiris is part of the agreement reached between Northern governors that almajiris in each state be transferred to their states of origin.
However, even before the latest agreement by the governors, the Kano government had been transferring almajiris to other states and neighbouring countries after it banned street begging in the state, most populous in Northern Nigeria.
Despite the transfers, however, no concrete step has been taken to ensure such children do not return to Kano streets as there is freedom of movement across Nigeria although interstate travel was recently banned to check the spread of the coronavirus.
Sourced From: Premium Times Nigeria
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COVID-19: ‘Bakassi Boys’ Foil Attempt To Smuggle 24 Women Into Abia In Container
By Ugochukwu Alaribe
Operatives of the Abia State Vigilante Service, AVS, popularly known as ‘Bakassi Boys’ have arrested 24 market women hidden in a container truck, at Ekwereazu Ngwa, the boundary community between Abia and Akwa Ibom states.
The market women, said to be from Akwa Ibom State, were on their way to Aba, when they were arrested with the truck driver and two of his conductors for violating the lockdown order by the state government.
Driver of the truck, Moses Asuquo, claimed he was going to Aba to purchase stock fish, but decided to assist the market women, because they were stranded.
A vigilante source told Sunday Vanguard that the vehicle was impounded while the market women were sent back to Akwa Ibom State.
Commissioner for Home Land Security, Prince Dan Okoli, who confirmed the incident, said that smuggling of people into the state poses great threat to the state government’s efforts to contain the spread of COVID- 19.
Sourced From: Vanguard News
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Woman Kills Her Maid Over Salary Request
Operatives of the State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department (SCIID), Yaba of the Lagos State police command have arrested one Mrs Nene Steve for allegedly killing her maid, Joy Adole
The maid was allegedly beaten to death by Nene for requesting for her salary at their residence located at 18, Ogundola Street, Bariga area in Lagos.
Narrating the incident, Philips Ejeh, an elder brother to the deceased said that he was sad when they informed him that his sister was beaten to death.
He explained that the deceased was an indigene of Benue State brought to Lagos through an agent and started working with her as a maid in January 2020.
‘’She reported that her boss refused to pay her and anytime she asked for her salary she will start beating her.
She was making an attempt to leave the place but due to the total lockdown she remained there until Sunday when her boss said she caught her stealing noodles and this led to her serious beating and death,’’ Ejeh said.
He called on Lagos State Government and well- meaning people in the country to help them in getting justice for the victim.
The police spokesman, Bala Elkana, stated that the woman and her husband came to Bariga Police Station to a report that their house girl had committed suicide.
Detectives were said to have visited the house and suspected foul play with the position of the rope and bruises all over the body which confirmed that the girl had been tortured to death and the boss decided to hang up the girl to make it look like suicide.
He said: “The police moved on with their investigation and found a lot of sign of violence on her body that she has been tortured before a rope was put on her neck.’’
He added that the police removed the corpse and deposited it in the mortuary for autopsy to further ascertain the cause of the death.
Elkana said the matter has been transferred from Bariga police station to Panti for further investigation while the couple have been arrested and will be charged to court.
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Boko Haram Attacks: Buhari Summons Urgent Meeting Of Service Chiefs
Ostensibly alarmed by the latest killings of dozens of soldiers by Boko Haram insurgents, President Muhammadu Buhari has summoned an urgent meeting of Service Chiefs to find ways to stop the trend.
He has also dispatched the Minister of Defence, Mansur Dan Ali, to the neighbouring Republic of Chad for an urgent meeting with President Idris Deby and his defence counterpart.
Knowledgeable sources said in Abuja on Friday that the president is worried by on the deterioration of security situation on the Nigeria – Chad Border that has led to the recently increased Boko Haram terrorism in the area.
The sources which did not want to be named in Abuja said: “Nigeria has a Chad problem in the Multi-National Joint Task Force (MNJTF) put together to secure the Lake Chad basin areas and repeal the Boko Haram terrorist attacks against all the countries neighbouring the Lake.”
The sources noted that Chad is believed to be having their own internal security challenges and this has reportedly led to their pulling away their own troops manning their own border around Lake Chad, saying: “That lacuna is being exploited by the Boko Haram terrorists, who go in and out of Nigeria, Niger and Cameroon to launch terrorist acts. This is a clear illustration of the fact that terrorism is beyond national borders.”
When contacted, the Senior Special Assistant to the President on Media and Publicity, Garba Shehu, confirmed that the Defence Minister is going to Chad but said he is unaware of the purpose.
Meanwhile, the military authorities are said to be in the process of identifying the families of the latest victims with a view to making contact with them.
Credible sources revealed that it is the reason the president is yet to make any pronouncement on the matter.
“The President has called an urgent meeting with the Service Chiefs, as well as the fact that families of the latest victims of the Boko Haram are being identified and contacts made before a government pronouncement on the tragic attacks. This, it is understood, is the reason for the silence of the government over the incident,” the source said.
Sourced From: Tribune