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The influence of friends on relationships is something you cannot readily deny. There are testimonies/stories that clearly show how friends have contributed to each other’s blessing or downfall. The kind of friends you keep or share your family matter with will affect how well you can cope in relationships.

People who come as friends but with hidden motive of destroying your relationship go the extra mile to plant negative thoughts against it. You really have to look closely before opening up to them on private concerns. Do not be in a hurry to pour your heart to strangers in a bid to make friends.

Some folks are so sneaky you may not suspect their wicked plans until they have hit you hard and you are down. People who tend to show too much interest in your private affairs and ask too many questions may not be totally clean, but you can defeat them by being reserved and calculated.

Issues of relationships sometimes do not have a yes or no answer and the friend you are discussing with might not have a clear view of what the truth is; at the end of the day, you might end up with wrong suggestions because you gave wrong information in the first place. Bearing in mind there are friends who would want you out of your relationship simply because they are out of theirs or jealous of what you’ve got will help you sift through suggestions or insinuations that might be harmful.

Helen tells how she confided in a friend when facing hard times in marriage. “Jessica was a lady I met in the children’s school as we walked past each other daily, hurrying to catch up with school time. Mary was my only child so I spent ample time looking after myself even in the morning before stepping out to drop her off. Most women confessed they liked my looks while others just pretended I didn’t exist but I knew I’ve been made to be conspicuous, not just because I’m pretty but I love to look great too. I choose my clothes carefully and flatter them with matching accessories.

“One day, she broke the silence and openly commended the summer dress I put on; she went ahead to ask where I got it from and I said it was my husband who bought it for me during his recent trip to America. Sooner than I expected, most of our conversations ended up with our partners and how they treated us. The man she lived with was not her husband but my hubby and I had been married for eight years. When our conversation moved  to personal matters I could no longer manage misunderstanding with my sweetheart without a mention to her.

“Initially, she sounded sceptical about men then gradually tried to sell real hatred for matrimony which was why she decided never to be called anybody’s wife again. I bought into her view and her suggestions were so sharp and effective my husband knew someone somewhere was coaching me. Things went so bad that I finally made up my mind to separate from my husband once our daughter was out of primary school.

“I planned to take her somewhere far, where the father would think twice before travelling to see us. Though I didn’t tell anyone what I was thinking, one day, I overheard Jessica in a conversation, regretting why she ever took the foolish decision of splitting with her ex-husband to be with a partner who treats her with so much contempt. She had to be the one paying all the bills and providing all the things the guy needed while he laid lazy and smoked his life away looking for the least opportunity to chase other women.

“This was a moment of truth for me; I knew instantly that Jessica wanted me out of my marriage so I would join in her suffering. She wanted me destabilised and confused, hanging out with different blokes who have nothing to offer or ready to build a home. Once she turned and met me standing right behind her as we waited to pick up the kids, she knew nothing could convince me to trust her again. I went home and sorted things out with my husband, apologised for my nasty recent behaviour and put my wifely cap again, ready for the return of marital bliss”.

Beware of people who come to tell you how hard they are with their spouses and how they do not take any nonsense from anyone. They might be setting you up for failure in your relationship. Even when some claim it’s their spouse who does everything for them, don’t be jealous of them; it might just be lies. If it’s true, don’t you know all relationships are not the same? There might be things you are enjoying in yours that they would love to have but they refuse to say so; why not be content and move on with your life knowing that there is absolutely no one who has it all in this life.

Refuse to let people’s comment, boasting, lies, or even real circumstances pull you away from your decision to stay faithful to your relationship. The grass may look greener on the other side but as you cross over, you’ll either discover you misjudged or was too quick to conclude.

How to pick your friends: 

•Common Interest: Doing things together has a way of making people stick. The more you share in activities the better you get to know and appreciate each other. Bear in mind that the closer you get the more of each other’s weaknesses you’ll also be exposed to but this can be managed with wisdom —no one is flawless.

•Values: Hanging out with someone whose values are not too far from yours create a fertile ground for you to soar and hold firm to what you hold in high esteem.

•Bad corrupts Good: There is no need fooling yourself that the obviously bad person would be changed overnight by you. If you feel strong enough to impart positive virtue to someone, start it from a distance and work carefully toward closeness but if the bad influence is overwhelming, retreat and decide what is good for you.

•Be comfortable together: Having a friend who makes you feel like a nobody is deadly. People who continuously say derogatory or sarcastic things about you have the intention of destroying your person and there is no way you can be fulfilled with such a fellow.

•Keep simple: Are you working hard to impress a friend or be accepted? Have a second thought and be convinced you are happy to walk together. A friend should be someone who knows and accepts you just the way you are.

•Don’t assume: It’s risky to think people would change because of you. If someone has an attitude you detest, it’s safer not to make them your close pals, relate from far.

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Kano Transfers Over 1,000 Almajiris To Different States Amidst COVID-19 Pandemic

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The Kano State Government on Saturday said it has transferred 1,098 ‘almajiris’ to different states of the country.

The commissioner for local government, Murtala Garo, disclosed this while presenting a report before the state’s task force on COVID-19 at the government house, Kano.

Almajiris are children who are supposed to be learning Islamic studies while living with their Islamic teachers. Majority of them, however, end up begging on the streets of Northern Nigeria. They constitute a large number of Nigeria’s over 10 million out-of-school children.

Mr Garo said the Kano government transported 419 almajiris to Katsina, 524 to Jigawa and 155 to Kaduna. He said all of them tested negative for coronavirus before leaving the Kano State.

Despite the coronavirus test done in Kano for the almajiris, the Jigawa government earlier said it would quarantine for two weeks all the almajiris that recently arrived from Kano.

Mr Garo said another 100 almajiris scheduled to be taken to Bauchi State also tested negative to COVID-19.

In a remark, Governor Abdullahi Ganduje said the COVID-19 situation in Kano was getting worse. He appealed for a collaborative effort to curtail the spread of the virus in the state.

Mr Ganduje, who commended residents for complying with the lockdown imposed in the state, said the decision was taken to halt the spread of the virus.

Kano State, as of Saturday night, has 77 coronavirus cases, according to the Nigeria Centre for Disease Control.

The decision to transfer the Kano almajiris is part of the agreement reached between Northern governors that almajiris in each state be transferred to their states of origin.

However, even before the latest agreement by the governors, the Kano government had been transferring almajiris to other states and neighbouring countries after it banned street begging in the state, most populous in Northern Nigeria.

Despite the transfers, however, no concrete step has been taken to ensure such children do not return to Kano streets as there is freedom of movement across Nigeria although interstate travel was recently banned to check the spread of the coronavirus.

 

Sourced From: Premium Times Nigeria

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COVID-19: ‘Bakassi Boys’ Foil Attempt To Smuggle 24 Women Into Abia In Container

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Operatives of the Abia State Vigilante Service, AVS, popularly known as ‘Bakassi Boys’ have arrested 24 market women hidden in a container truck, at Ekwereazu Ngwa, the boundary community between Abia and Akwa Ibom states.

The market women, said to be  from Akwa Ibom State, were on their way to Aba, when they were arrested with the truck driver and two of his conductors for violating the lockdown order by the state government.

Driver of the truck, Moses Asuquo, claimed he was going to Aba to purchase stock fish, but decided to assist the market women, because they were stranded.

A vigilante source told Sunday Vanguard that the vehicle was impounded while the market women were sent back to Akwa Ibom State.

Commissioner for Home Land Security, Prince Dan Okoli, who confirmed the incident, said that  smuggling of people into the state poses great threat to the state government’s efforts to contain the spread of COVID- 19.

 

Sourced From: Vanguard News

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Woman Kills Her Maid Over Salary Request

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Operatives of the State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department (SCIID), Yaba of the Lagos State police command have arrested one Mrs Nene Steve for allegedly killing her maid, Joy Adole

The maid was allegedly beaten to death by Nene for requesting for her salary at their residence located at 18, Ogundola Street, Bariga area in Lagos.

Narrating the incident, Philips Ejeh, an elder brother to the deceased said that he was sad when they informed him that his sister was beaten to death.

He explained that the deceased was an indigene of Benue State brought to Lagos through an agent and started working with her as a maid  in January 2020.

‘’She reported that her boss refused to pay her and anytime she asked for her salary she will start beating her.

She was making an attempt to leave the place but due to the total lockdown she remained there until Sunday when her boss said she caught her stealing noodles and this led to her serious beating and death,’’ Ejeh said.

He called on Lagos State Government and well- meaning people in the country to help them in getting justice for the victim.

The police spokesman, Bala Elkana, stated that the woman and her husband came to Bariga Police  Station to a report that their house girl had committed suicide.

Detectives were said to have visited the house and suspected foul play with the position of the rope and bruises all over the body which confirmed that the girl had been tortured to death and the boss decided to hang up the girl to make it look like suicide.

He said: “The police moved on with their investigation and found a lot of sign of violence on her body that she has been tortured before a rope was put on her neck.’’

He added that the police removed the corpse and deposited it in the mortuary for autopsy to further ascertain the cause of the death.

Elkana said the matter has been transferred from Bariga police station to Panti for further investigation while the couple have been arrested and will be charged to court.

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Boko Haram Attacks: Buhari Summons Urgent Meeting Of Service Chiefs

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President Buhari and the Service Chiefs in a meeting. (File photo)

Ostensibly alarmed by the latest killings of dozens of soldiers by Boko Haram insurgents, President Muhammadu Buhari has summoned an urgent meeting of Service Chiefs to find ways to stop the trend. 

He has also dispatched the Minister of Defence, Mansur Dan Ali, to the neighbouring Republic of Chad for an urgent meeting with President Idris Deby and his defence counterpart. 

Knowledgeable sources said in Abuja on Friday that the president is worried by on the deterioration of security situation on the Nigeria – Chad Border that has led to the recently increased Boko Haram terrorism in the area.

The sources which did not want to be named in Abuja said: “Nigeria has a Chad  problem in the Multi-National Joint Task Force (MNJTF) put together to secure the Lake Chad basin areas and repeal the Boko Haram terrorist attacks against all the countries neighbouring the Lake.”

The sources noted that Chad is believed to be having their own internal security challenges and this has reportedly led to their pulling away their own troops manning their own border around Lake Chad,  saying: “That lacuna is being exploited by the Boko Haram terrorists, who go in and out of Nigeria, Niger and Cameroon to launch terrorist acts.  This is a clear illustration of the fact that terrorism is beyond national borders.”

When contacted, the Senior Special Assistant to the President on Media and Publicity, Garba Shehu, confirmed that the Defence Minister is going to Chad but said he is unaware of the purpose. 

Meanwhile, the military authorities are said to be in the process of identifying the families of the latest victims with a view to making contact with them. 

Credible sources revealed that it is the reason the president is yet to make any pronouncement on the matter. 

“The President has called an urgent meeting with the Service Chiefs, as well as the fact that families of the latest victims of the Boko Haram are being identified and contacts made before a government pronouncement on the tragic attacks. This, it is understood, is the reason for the silence of the government over the incident,” the source said. 

 

Sourced From: Tribune

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