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Don’t Despise Your Spouse

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Facial expressions sometimes mirror what is in the mind but no one can be completely sure of what goes on in other people’s thoughts. Not being able to see through people’s imagination is one of the greatest wisdom of nature; this would have caused enormous friction in relationships.

How would you explain a situation where a wife knew her husband brought some money home and she went behind to arrange for robbers to visit? Would her husband count her as the prime suspect? Probably not: he might be busy accusing and arresting innocent souls outside his home or other people living with them.

It will be extremely difficult for a wife whose husband just came home from work with a bouquet of lovely flowers and say ‘I love you honey’ to suspect that he is just leaving the bosom of a strange woman/lover. How do you reconcile both? He claims to be in love with his wife; buys her flowers yet spends time and resources on another woman outside their relationship.

Jones and Emma left their teenage daughter at home when they left for work in the morning. She smiled and kissed both parents good bye as usual, when mum returned and found an empty house she thought “oh Sandra is hanging out with friends again at the park”. Dad came in later and still not found their damsel home. As the summer brightness gave way to late nightfall, they knew something silly would have happened to their little girl. First, phone calls but lines were dead, friends were contacted but everyone seemed lost, neighbours checked out but all signs of finding Sandra turned red. A closer look on her dressing table revealed a tiny folded pink ‘stick it note pad’ with a note that she had moved out of her parents home for good.  The first thing mum said was “How come I didn’t see this coming?” The father said “she showed no signs of discontent at all”. No one could see that beyond her morning smiles laid mischief of escape from home.

We have all been deceived or betrayed by people we never thought could do so. Would you stop trusting people simply because you don’t know what they are thinking about you? No! Life is all about risk and faith; you keep hoping for the best.

Having said all these, the summary therefore is that you cannot control what people think or tell them how to see situations. When it comes to relationships, a whole lot of things happen between couples which sometimes make them do things you’ll never expect. Some relationships are sweet and smooth when things are going on well but as soon as there’s a down turn in a way, bitterness pours in. I read a woman’s confession in a magazine recently about her husband who lost his job and could not find another for about eight months. She was the one footing the bills and sorting the home for that period- there is nothing wrong with that as long as the man is not lazy or folding his arms and expecting windfalls. You are in the relationship to support each other and cover lapses when necessary. The shock came when she said her respect for him ceased because he was no longer taking care of the family. Everyone knows it can be challenging for only one person to handle the bills especially if the income is barely enough but it will help a great deal if people can educate themselves about the reality of relationships. In life, things change and some changes come without notice so if your relationship passes through a little bit of negative changes; be courageous enough to pull through.

People may despise you during …

•Sickness: A tall, handsome and rich guy you meet today can be reduced to a no body within just six months of illness and a beauty queen that swept your feet at first sight can turn undesirable within a twinkle of an eye. If you once confessed love and care for your spouse why are you acting differently now that he/she is sick and helpless? Has the love died?

It is now you should even prove it more. I know it can be difficult especially when you don’t know when it will be over- it’s like your whole life is in jeopardy and your dreams ended. When you see people abandon their spouse on the wheelchair and runoff, you might be tempted to say “how heartless could they be”?  The truth is that it is not easy but with understanding you can make it, you can decide to be there for them as part of your support.

•Failure: Success, it is said has many friends and relatives. A failing spouse in business, education, job or investment needs more encouragement than a child who knows nothing about life and its challenges. Telling your spouse how much you believe in him/her even when they are failing is a priceless offer. They just want to be sure what is happening to them has not defined them negatively. The way you handle your spouse in failure will determine to a great extent how soon they can bounce back to life.

•Wrong decisions: People who are married can tell you that taking decisions can be challenging especially when the wife’s opinion is different from her husband’s. Competition comes in subtly and each party looks forward to seeing the other fail. If your suggestion is the successful one, handle it with maturity and don’t rub it in for your spouse to see you are more accurate, intelligent or smart; after all he/she married you because of those nice qualities so keep cool.

•Insinuations: I don’t like people who go about planting bad seeds in others. If your relationship is good and working great, thank heavens and pray for others. Don’t go to people telling them what their spouse have not done for them and what yours do. Allow people to live their own lives- “all fingers are not equal”.  Don’t teach people how to maltreat their spouse, mind yours. Funny enough, most stories people tell about how wonderful their love is turn out to be lies. They just want to set you up- as a matter of fact, they desire and even prefer your relationship. If given the chance, they’ll take over your spouse with the speed of light.

•Small beginnings: Don’t despise the days of small beginnings because you do not know tomorrow. Treat your spouse as a king/queen so if they become one in future you’ll be proud of whom you were yesterday. Don’t be rude; work together and some day, greatness will knock.

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Kano Transfers Over 1,000 Almajiris To Different States Amidst COVID-19 Pandemic

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The Kano State Government on Saturday said it has transferred 1,098 ‘almajiris’ to different states of the country.

The commissioner for local government, Murtala Garo, disclosed this while presenting a report before the state’s task force on COVID-19 at the government house, Kano.

Almajiris are children who are supposed to be learning Islamic studies while living with their Islamic teachers. Majority of them, however, end up begging on the streets of Northern Nigeria. They constitute a large number of Nigeria’s over 10 million out-of-school children.

Mr Garo said the Kano government transported 419 almajiris to Katsina, 524 to Jigawa and 155 to Kaduna. He said all of them tested negative for coronavirus before leaving the Kano State.

Despite the coronavirus test done in Kano for the almajiris, the Jigawa government earlier said it would quarantine for two weeks all the almajiris that recently arrived from Kano.

Mr Garo said another 100 almajiris scheduled to be taken to Bauchi State also tested negative to COVID-19.

In a remark, Governor Abdullahi Ganduje said the COVID-19 situation in Kano was getting worse. He appealed for a collaborative effort to curtail the spread of the virus in the state.

Mr Ganduje, who commended residents for complying with the lockdown imposed in the state, said the decision was taken to halt the spread of the virus.

Kano State, as of Saturday night, has 77 coronavirus cases, according to the Nigeria Centre for Disease Control.

The decision to transfer the Kano almajiris is part of the agreement reached between Northern governors that almajiris in each state be transferred to their states of origin.

However, even before the latest agreement by the governors, the Kano government had been transferring almajiris to other states and neighbouring countries after it banned street begging in the state, most populous in Northern Nigeria.

Despite the transfers, however, no concrete step has been taken to ensure such children do not return to Kano streets as there is freedom of movement across Nigeria although interstate travel was recently banned to check the spread of the coronavirus.

 

Sourced From: Premium Times Nigeria

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COVID-19: ‘Bakassi Boys’ Foil Attempt To Smuggle 24 Women Into Abia In Container

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Operatives of the Abia State Vigilante Service, AVS, popularly known as ‘Bakassi Boys’ have arrested 24 market women hidden in a container truck, at Ekwereazu Ngwa, the boundary community between Abia and Akwa Ibom states.

The market women, said to be  from Akwa Ibom State, were on their way to Aba, when they were arrested with the truck driver and two of his conductors for violating the lockdown order by the state government.

Driver of the truck, Moses Asuquo, claimed he was going to Aba to purchase stock fish, but decided to assist the market women, because they were stranded.

A vigilante source told Sunday Vanguard that the vehicle was impounded while the market women were sent back to Akwa Ibom State.

Commissioner for Home Land Security, Prince Dan Okoli, who confirmed the incident, said that  smuggling of people into the state poses great threat to the state government’s efforts to contain the spread of COVID- 19.

 

Sourced From: Vanguard News

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Woman Kills Her Maid Over Salary Request

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Operatives of the State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department (SCIID), Yaba of the Lagos State police command have arrested one Mrs Nene Steve for allegedly killing her maid, Joy Adole

The maid was allegedly beaten to death by Nene for requesting for her salary at their residence located at 18, Ogundola Street, Bariga area in Lagos.

Narrating the incident, Philips Ejeh, an elder brother to the deceased said that he was sad when they informed him that his sister was beaten to death.

He explained that the deceased was an indigene of Benue State brought to Lagos through an agent and started working with her as a maid  in January 2020.

‘’She reported that her boss refused to pay her and anytime she asked for her salary she will start beating her.

She was making an attempt to leave the place but due to the total lockdown she remained there until Sunday when her boss said she caught her stealing noodles and this led to her serious beating and death,’’ Ejeh said.

He called on Lagos State Government and well- meaning people in the country to help them in getting justice for the victim.

The police spokesman, Bala Elkana, stated that the woman and her husband came to Bariga Police  Station to a report that their house girl had committed suicide.

Detectives were said to have visited the house and suspected foul play with the position of the rope and bruises all over the body which confirmed that the girl had been tortured to death and the boss decided to hang up the girl to make it look like suicide.

He said: “The police moved on with their investigation and found a lot of sign of violence on her body that she has been tortured before a rope was put on her neck.’’

He added that the police removed the corpse and deposited it in the mortuary for autopsy to further ascertain the cause of the death.

Elkana said the matter has been transferred from Bariga police station to Panti for further investigation while the couple have been arrested and will be charged to court.

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Boko Haram Attacks: Buhari Summons Urgent Meeting Of Service Chiefs

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President Buhari and the Service Chiefs in a meeting. (File photo)

Ostensibly alarmed by the latest killings of dozens of soldiers by Boko Haram insurgents, President Muhammadu Buhari has summoned an urgent meeting of Service Chiefs to find ways to stop the trend. 

He has also dispatched the Minister of Defence, Mansur Dan Ali, to the neighbouring Republic of Chad for an urgent meeting with President Idris Deby and his defence counterpart. 

Knowledgeable sources said in Abuja on Friday that the president is worried by on the deterioration of security situation on the Nigeria – Chad Border that has led to the recently increased Boko Haram terrorism in the area.

The sources which did not want to be named in Abuja said: “Nigeria has a Chad  problem in the Multi-National Joint Task Force (MNJTF) put together to secure the Lake Chad basin areas and repeal the Boko Haram terrorist attacks against all the countries neighbouring the Lake.”

The sources noted that Chad is believed to be having their own internal security challenges and this has reportedly led to their pulling away their own troops manning their own border around Lake Chad,  saying: “That lacuna is being exploited by the Boko Haram terrorists, who go in and out of Nigeria, Niger and Cameroon to launch terrorist acts.  This is a clear illustration of the fact that terrorism is beyond national borders.”

When contacted, the Senior Special Assistant to the President on Media and Publicity, Garba Shehu, confirmed that the Defence Minister is going to Chad but said he is unaware of the purpose. 

Meanwhile, the military authorities are said to be in the process of identifying the families of the latest victims with a view to making contact with them. 

Credible sources revealed that it is the reason the president is yet to make any pronouncement on the matter. 

“The President has called an urgent meeting with the Service Chiefs, as well as the fact that families of the latest victims of the Boko Haram are being identified and contacts made before a government pronouncement on the tragic attacks. This, it is understood, is the reason for the silence of the government over the incident,” the source said. 

 

Sourced From: Tribune

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